Tinder, STDs & FWB

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I am unimpressed with myself while I write this blog, but since I am documenting my online-dating journey, I wanted to be transparent throughout the entire process.

A couple weeks ago I had a conversation with a friend about idea of becoming friends-with-benefits. This wasn’t a new conversation, the topic actually came up two years ago in a similar forum, in which I responded by vomiting (quite literally). I left his house in the middle of the night and threw up into a plastic grocery bag I found in my car. Through my early adulthood and into my twenties I treated my body almost as if it was sacred. I didn’t fuck around on the first date, I wasn’t taking my clothes off for someone I wasn’t in love with, I had standards and a mindset that sex was to be held for someone special.

Over the pastcouple years my…

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Wild Sex in the Middle Ages

In the popular imagination, the history of sex is a straightforward one. For centuries, the people of the Christian West lived in a state of sexual repression, straitjacketed by an overwhelming fear of sin, combined with a complete lack of knowledge about their own bodies. Those who fell short of the high moral standards that church, state and society demanded of them faced ostracism and punishment. Then in the mid-20th century things changed forever when, in Philip Larkin’s oft-quoted words, ‘Sexual intercourse began in 1963 … between the end of the Chatterley ban and the Beatles’ first LP.’

In reality, the history of human sexuality is far more interesting and wild. Many prevailing presumptions about the sex lives of our medieval ancestors are rooted in the erroneous belief that they lived in an unsophisticated age of religious fanaticism and medical ignorance. While Christian ideals indeed influenced medieval attitudes to sex, they were rather more complex than contemporary prejudices suggest. Christian beliefs interacted with medieval medical theories to help shape some surprising and sophisticated ideas about sex, and a wide variety of different sexual practices, long before the sexual revolution.

https://aeon.co/amp/essays/getting-down-and-medieval-the-sex-lives-of-the-middle-ages